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Maladaptive Perfectionism: Understanding it’s hidden danger and how to break free.

I was floored.

I slowly closed the book and thought, ‘Wow, it looks like I’m a perfectionist.’

This might not be big news for many, but for me it was. I’d never thought of myself as a perfectionist, so it was a complete paradigm shift.

I’d always thought of perfectionists as those with extremely high standards, picky, controlling and critical of others who don’t live up to their ideals.

I wasn’t any of those things.

In fact I was the opposite. As a Psychologist and Leadership Coach I’m known for not being judgemental or critical. I’m told my super-power is that I make people feel safe and never judged.

But it seems that I wasn’t giving myself the same level of compassion and understanding.

The only reason I’d started to read about perfectionism was that I had a lot of high achieving coaching clients who were quite open and happy about being perfectionists.

They didn’t see anything wrong with it, and in fact credited it with contributing to their success.

Even in a recent poll I conducted on LinkedIn, almost a third of respondents (30%) thought that their perfectionism helps them:

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Now, perfectionism isn’t all bad.

It was certainly driving some of my coaching clients towards the achievement of large, impressive goals. But I could see that it was also having some negative consequences that they weren’t considering.

I wanted to learn more about it, so I could help these leaders keep the good aspects of perfectionism but address the parts that weren’t so helpful.

So started my journey to understand ‘maladaptive perfectionism’ verses ‘adaptive perfectionism’.

In this post, we’ll take a closer look at what maladaptive perfectionism is, the effects it can have on our lives and the signs and symptoms to look out for.

We’ll also explore practical tips and strategies on how to overcome maladaptive perfectionism and embrace a healthier mindset.

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Adaptive vs Maladaptive Perfectionism

Perfectionism is often seen as a desirable trait in our society – working hard, being the best and achieving impressive goals are all things we’re told are good and we’re generously rewarded for.

What’s wrong with setting high standards and striving for excellence? Surely, being mediocre or bad at something can’t be a good thing?

But we know that perfectionism can have a huge detrimental effect on your effectiveness and levels of satisfaction in your career, not to mention your mental health, relationships and overall wellbeing.

When perfectionism is unhelpful like this, we call it ‘maladaptive perfectionism’.

Maladaptive Perfectionism Definition

Maladaptive perfectionism is a type of perfectionism that is characterized by setting excessively high standards and being overly self-critical when those standards aren’t met, leading to negative consequences such as anxiety, depression, and impaired functioning.

Adaptive Perfectionism Definition

Adaptive perfectionism is a type of perfectionism characterized by setting high personal standards and striving for excellence, but without experiencing the negative consequences such as anxiety or low self-esteem when those standards aren’t met.

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So, while both maladaptive and adaptive perfectionism involve setting high standards, there’s some key differences between them. 

Adaptive perfectionists are able to maintain a healthy balance between striving for excellence and recognizing when their work is good enough.

But maladaptive perfectionists often set unrealistic and unattainable standards for themselves, and then beat themselves up when they don’t achieve those unrealistic goals.

And this can lead to chronic self-criticism and dissatisfaction, and a feeling of never being good enough.

The issue isn’t setting high standards and striving for excellence – it what you say to yourself when those standards aren’t met. That’s where maladaptive perfectionism is so damaging.

“Perfection is self destructive simply because there’s no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal.”

 Brene Brown

How to Spot Maladaptive Perfectionism

Perfectionism is tricky and can be hard to spot, as it shows up in different ways for different people. It can impact some parts of your life, but not others.

That’s why it was such a shock when I realised I was a perfectionist.

I think I’m pretty self-aware, but just hadn’t connected the dots to realise that some of my unhelpful traits and behaviours was actually perfectionism.

It’s helpful to think about the 3 types of maladaptive perfectionism as identified by Hewitt and Flett (1991). You might have a combination of all three types, or just one:

>> Self-Oriented Perfectionism: is setting self-imposed high standards and striving for excellence, often beyond what’s realistically attainable.

You’re highly motivated and goal-oriented, but when you fail to meet your own standards, you tend to be self-critical and focus on your flaws and mistakes.

This can lead to a pattern of rumination, self-blame and beating yourself up.

>> Other-Orientated Perfectionism: is having unrealistically high expectations of others and demanding perfection from them.

You tend to be highly critical and easily find fault or assign blame when others fail to meet your standards.

You frequently feel disappointed, angry and frustrated that others aren’t living up to your expectations.

>> Socially Prescribed Perfectionism: is characterized by a belief that others have excessively high expectations of you that are impossible to meet.

You feel intense pressure to meet these expectations and may be highly self-critical when you fall short.

Socially Prescribed Perfectionism

Effects of Maladaptive Perfectionism

“The drive to achieve more, be more, and prove ourselves can be so compelling that we feel driven to go, go, go. We can’t stop. Loosening up or not pursuing perfection doesn’t feel like an option even when it’s costing us dearly.”

Sharon Martin

And cost us dearly it does.

Maladaptive perfectionism impacts how you think, feel and behave and can have a range of negative effects on your life.

You might see it in your career and professional life or in your personal life with your relationships, parenting, home environment and the image you create of your ‘perfect life’.

Or it can come through in your health, body weight, fitness and appearance.

Maladaptive perfectionism manifests differently for all of us, though the biggest signs tend to be in your health and levels of stress, work-life balance, missed opportunities and your relationships.

Let’s have a look at each of these in turn:

#1: Stress, Physical and Mental Health

Maladaptive perfectionists tend to be stressed – a lot! Perfectionism can have significant negative effects on your stress levels, mental and physical health.  

Here’s how it might play out:

>> Physical symptoms: such as insomnia, aches and pains, muscle tension, low energy and gastrointestinal problems such as such as irritable bowel syndrome

>> Heightened emotions: you have mood swings and a short temper when things don’t go according to plan or when you make a mistake.

You might feel angry, disappointed, frustrated and blow up over seemingly small problems.

The fear of failure and judgement can also lead to constant worry and anxiousness, making it difficult to enjoy daily life.

Over time, these negative emotions can take a toll on your mental health, potentially leading to more severe issues such as depression and anxiety disorders.

>> Becoming unemotional: rather than heightened emotions, you may go the opposite way and become unemotional.

Here you try to cope with stress by ignoring, distracting, or numbing yourself to avoid the negative feelings associated with maladaptive perfectionism.

You may engage in behaviors such as overeating, alcohol or drug use, or overspending to escape your emotions temporarily.

>> Lack of resilience: perfectionists really struggle when faced with problems, life challenges, or unexpected events.

Because you’re so focused on achieving perfection and avoiding failure, there’s very little room for error.

So when you’re faced with difficulties and setbacks you’re likely to feel overwhelmed, anxious, or hopeless, and struggle to find the motivation or resources to overcome these problems.

This lack of resilience, inability to adapt to adversity and ‘roll with the punches’ can make it difficult to cope with the ups and downs of life and may lead to a sense of stagnation or hopelessness.

>> Busy minds: Maladaptive perfectionists often have busy minds that are hard to quiet, as you tend to have so many ideas and worries that put your brain into overdrive.

You have a constant inner dialogue, analyzing past events and obsessing over future ones.

This can lead to difficulty focusing on the present moment, which can negatively impact your relationships, work, and overall quality of life.

It can also cause anxiety and feelings of being overwhelmed, which can further perpetuate the cycle of maladaptive perfectionism.

>> Difficulty making decisions: Maladaptive perfectionists tend to overthink things, ruminate, and have trouble making decisions as you agonize about getting it right.

You can become stuck in a cycle of analysis paralysis, where you obsess over every detail and possibility, leading to indecisiveness and inaction.

This can negatively impact your personal and professional life and contribute to increased levels of stress and anxiety, further fuelling the cycle of maladaptive perfectionism.

Maladaptive Perfectionism & Stress

#2: Work-Life Balance

Maladaptive perfectionists are often work horses.

You find yourself working excessively long hours, driven either by a sense of duty and the fear of disappointing others or by a genuine passion for your work and the satisfaction you get from doing a good job.

Unfortunately, this relentless pursuit of perfection leaves you with little time or energy for other aspects of life such as hobbies, relationships, recreation, and self-care.

You prioritize work and the needs of others above your own well-being, often neglecting your own physical and mental health in the process.

“All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy”


The other challenge that perfectionists often have is if you do have a hobby or sport, you make it into a competitive activity.

You can’t just enjoy it – you have to be the best, win the medals and achieve amazing feats. You can’t just do a 5K fun run. It needs to be a marathon. Or a multiple day, ultra-marathon.

Not to say there’s anything wrong with any of these.

As we’ve said before, it depends on your reason for doing it, and what you say to yourself if these impressive targets aren’t met. That’s what makes your drive and ambition, maladaptive or not.

Maladaptive Perfectionism & Work-Life Balance

#3: Missed Opportunities

Maladaptive perfectionists often miss out on opportunities due to fear.

You convince yourself you don’t want to do certain things or don’t like them but in reality, it stems from a fear of failure, embarrassment, criticism, rejection, and the fear of not measuring up to others.

This fear holds you back from trying new things and exploring new possibilities – both in your personal and professional life.

It also fuels the awful habit of procrastination.

We don’t think we can do something to a good enough standard, so we can’t bring ourselves to get started.

For me this is joining the local tennis club. I’ve often seen people playing tennis at the local club and thought it would be a lovely way to spend the long warm evenings in the summer.

But the tennis players at the club look really good, and I know I’m not as advanced. So I’ve told myself I need to get some private lessons to bring myself up to speed before I join the group classes.

And I don’t have time for that right now…

How does it play out for you?

In my experience coaching leaders, I’ve observed how this fear can hinder career progression.

Leaders may resist applying for new roles, avoid stretch assignments, or turn down secondments in different parts of the organization or even different countries.

Or they may lack a clear career plan or aspirations, instead opting to, “keep my options open, go with the flow and see what opportunities come up (actual quote from one of my coaching clients).

But beneath this seemingly laid-back approach lies a lack of confidence and a reluctance to put themselves out there and take risks.

They’re not confident they can do it, and don’t want to look bad – so they won’t even try.

“Perfectionism is the mother of procrastination.”

Michael Hyatt

#4: Relationships

Maladaptive perfectionists tend not to prioritize relationships.

Work takes priority, and this leaves little time, energy, or inclination for meaningful connections and enjoyable activities!

But this lack of connection with others can lead to feelings of loneliness and dissatisfaction in life.

Being connected to and accepted by others is a fundamental human need, even though society emphasizes independence and individual achievement.

In our cave dwelling days, our survival depended on the support and cooperation of others in our tribe.

We simply couldn’t do it alone.

This desire for connection is deeply ingrained in our nature, and even if we choose to ignore it, the need for connection is still there.

Building meaningful relationships requires both emotional and physical presence.

It’s not enough to simply be in the same room with someone if your mind is distracted and elsewhere.

It requires vulnerability too, which is often super uncomfortable for perfectionists.

Perfectionists often keep people at a distance, only showing the parts of ourselves that we think are pleasing or agreeable.

We worry that if we show our true selves, we’ll be judged and seen to be wanting – not good enough.

True connections are built on authenticity and openness though, so this emotional shielding results in shallow and superficial relationships.

Maladaptive Perfectionism and Relationships

It’s important to remember that this fear of being judged and rejected stems from our primal instincts for survival.

In our cave dwelling days, being accepted by our tribe meant safety and security. If we were cast out, this would mean almost certain death.

Today, the life or death consequences might not be the same, but our instinct is, and we let this fear hold us back from being our true selves and forming genuine connections.

As a perfectionist, it’s essential for you to recognize the importance of nurturing relationships, as they provide support, fulfilment, and a sense of belonging that contributes to your overall well-being.

Prioritizing relationships alongside work can lead to a much more balanced and fulfilling life!

“Perfection is a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it’s the thing that really preventing us from taking flight.”

Brene Brown

Causes of Maladaptive Perfectionism

Early Childhood Experiences

Childhood experiences play a massive role in the development of maladaptive perfectionism.

One of the root causes of perfectionism lies in how we perceive ourselves and the beliefs we have about our abilities and worth.

And our parents or primary caregivers are the number one influence in shaping these beliefs during our early years.

Everything we see, hear and feel as children create our beliefs, and this is what we carry with us into adulthood.

As young children, we take everything our parents tell us as truth without filtering or questioning it (we believed it when they said a man in a red suit could come down the chimney and bring us presents didn’t we?)

It doesn’t matter if what your parents said was true or accurate, we believe them anyway.

This is how we end up carrying beliefs that are both untrue and unhelpful.

So, the parenting style used by our parents has a huge impact on the emergence of perfectionistic traits.

Sharon Martin (2019) highlights four parenting styles that can contribute to the development of perfectionism:

>> Demanding parents set high standards and expectations for their children, often placing an emphasis on achievement and success.

They may have rigid rules and strict guidelines for behavior and performance, leaving little room for error or deviation.

Children raised by demanding parents internalize the belief that their worth is contingent upon meeting these high standards.

They strive for perfection to gain approval and validation from their parents.

The fear of disappointing their parents or facing criticism for not meeting expectations is what drives the development of maladaptive perfectionism.


>> Perfectionist parents are often goal-oriented and driven individuals themselves and can inadvertently contribute to the development of perfectionism in their children.

These parents have high standards and demand a lot from themselves, which often leaves them feeling unhappy or unsatisfied.

In their own quest for perfection, they unintentionally role model self-criticism, placing a strong emphasis on achievement and external validation.

Perfectionist parents may prioritize outward signs of success, such as awards, material possessions, titles, and physical appearance.

They place more emphasis on praising achievements rather than effort or progress, reinforcing the belief that perfection and external recognition are the primary measures of worth.


>> Distracted parents have limited emotional availability and are preoccupied with their own responsibilities and commitments.

This lack of consistent emotional presence leads children to seek validation and attention through achieving high standards and perfection.

In an attempt to gain recognition and approval, children of distracted parents strive for perfection as a means to capture their parents’ attention and acknowledgement.

This constant need for external validation and fear of being overlooked is what drives the development of maladaptive perfectionism.


>> Overwhelmed parents often experience high levels of stress, which can lead to feelings of being overwhelmed and emotionally unavailable.

The source of this overwhelm may stem from various factors, such as their own experiences of trauma, mental illness, addiction, dealing with a crisis, or facing chronic stressors like unemployment, poverty, or health problems.

Children growing up in such environments may internalize the belief that their performance and perfection can somehow alleviate their parents’ burdens or bring a sense of stability.

The pressure to be perfect becomes a coping mechanism and a way to maintain control amidst the chaos.

Causes of Maladaptive Perfectionism

Societal, Cultural and Media Influences

The impact of society, culture, and media on the development of perfectionism cannot be overlooked.

In today’s fast-paced and achievement-oriented world, there’s often a pervasive expectation of flawlessness and high achievement.

Society places a premium on external markers of success, such as wealth, status, and physical appearance, which can inadvertently fuel the drive for perfectionism.

Cultural factors also play a significant role.

Different cultures have varying standards and expectations regarding achievement, success, and personal fulfilment.

Some cultures place a strong emphasis on academic or professional accomplishments, while others prioritize social harmony or conformity.

These cultural norms can exert huge pressure on people to meet or exceed certain standards, leading to perfectionistic tendencies.

Media, including social media, further amplifies these societal and cultural influences.

It presents curated and idealized versions of people’s lives, often emphasizing achievement, beauty, and perfection.

Constant exposure to these unrealistic standards can lead people to compare themselves unfavorably and strive for an unattainable level of perfection.

Societal and cultural messages reinforce the belief that worth, and acceptance are contingent upon meeting external expectations.

This can create a fear of failure, criticism, or rejection, further fuelling perfectionistic tendencies.

In his thought-provoking TedTalk, Our dangerous obsession with perfectionism is getting worse,” Thomas Curran sheds light on the phenomenon of socially prescribed perfectionism, a concept we mentioned earlier and originally introduced by Hewitt and Flett (1991).

TedTalk - Our dangerous obsession with perfectionism is getting worse

Curran discusses how societal factors and external pressures contribute to the escalating levels of perfectionism we see today.

He explores the impact of social media, the relentless pursuit of success, and the fear of judgment and failure on our mental health and well-being.

He emphasizes the importance of challenging these societal norms and fostering self-acceptance and resilience.

He calls for a collective shift in our attitudes and values, urging us to embrace imperfection, self-compassion, and authentic connection rather than striving for an unattainable ideal.

Individual Personality Traits

The impact of individual personality traits on the development of perfectionism is a fascinating area of study.

Research suggests that certain personality traits play a significant role in shaping perfectionistic tendencies.

Understanding how these individual traits interact with other factors can provide valuable insights into the complexities of perfectionism and its underlying mechanisms.

In this section, we’ll explore the influence of various personality traits on the development of perfectionism, shedding light on the interplay between personality and the pursuit of perfection.

The Big Five Personality Model

The Big Five personality model, also known as the Five-Factor Model, is a widely accepted framework used to describe and categorize human personality traits.

Conscientiousness and neuroticism, two of the Big Five personality traits, have been found to have notable influences on perfectionism.

>> Conscientiousness: individuals high in conscientiousness tend to be diligent, detail-oriented, and focused on achieving their goals.

While this can be beneficial, it can also contribute to setting excessively high standards and a strong drive for flawlessness, which as we know, is often associated with perfectionism.

>> Neuroticism: high levels of neuroticism, characterized by emotional instability and a tendency to experience negative emotions, are often linked to perfectionism.

People high in neuroticism tend to have heightened self-doubt, fear of failure, and a strong need for control, which can fuel their pursuit of perfection.

See Smith et al (2019) Perfectionism and the Five-Factor Model of Personality: A Meta-Analytic Review for more information.

The Big Five Personality Model & Perfectionism

Highly Sensitive People (HSPs)

Highly sensitive people (HSPs) are another group that may be more prone to perfectionistic tendencies.

HSPs possess a heightened sensitivity to external stimuli, including emotional, social, and sensory experiences.

They tend to process information deeply and have a rich inner world. This inherent sensitivity can contribute to the development of perfectionism in several ways:

>> HSPs may be more attuned to their surroundings and the expectations of others. They have a strong desire to meet these expectations, often striving for perfection as a means of gaining acceptance and approval.

The fear of disappointing others or being judged can drive them to set exceedingly high standards for themselves.

>> The intense emotional experiences felt by HSPs can also contribute to perfectionism. They may feel emotions more strongly, including anxiety, self-doubt, and fear of failure.

These intense emotions can fuel the desire to achieve perfection as a way to alleviate these anxieties and maintain a sense of control.

>> The deep processing style of HSPs can lead to overthinking and rumination. They may engage in constant self-evaluation and replaying of past events, analyzing their performance and striving to correct any perceived imperfections.

This tendency for self-reflection can contribute to the development of maladaptive perfectionism.

How to Overcome Maladaptive Perfectionism

The journey to overcome maladaptive perfectionism can be challenging, but I hope by now, you see that it’s a worthwhile endeavor!

In this section, we’ll explore some strategies to help you navigate and overcome the negative effects of perfectionism.

These practical techniques and mindset shifts will empower you to embrace imperfection, cultivate self-compassion, set realistic goals, and prioritize your overall well-being.

By implementing these strategies, you can break free from the grip of maladaptive perfectionism and foster a healthier and more balanced approach to life and achievement.

So, here’s my top tips to overcome maladaptive perfectionism:

Tip #1: Recognize and challenge your perfectionistic thoughts using CBT

Pay attention to your inner dialogue and identify when your thoughts are overly critical or unrealistic.

Challenge these thoughts by asking yourself for evidence and considering more balanced perspectives.

Remind yourself that perfection is unattainable, and that mistakes and imperfections are part of the learning process.

Tip #2: Set realistic goals and expectations

Break down larger goals into smaller, manageable steps.

Focus on progress and effort rather than solely on outcomes.

Practice mindfulness and celebrate each small achievement along the way. Embrace the idea that mistakes and setbacks are opportunities for growth and learning.

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Tip #3: Practice self-compassion

Be kind and understanding toward yourself.

Treat yourself with the same compassion and support you would offer a friend facing a similar situation. Replace self-criticism with self-encouragement and self-acceptance.

Remember that everyone makes mistakes and that you are deserving of love and acceptance, regardless of your achievements.

Tip #4: Reduce your stress & anxiety

Reducing stress and anxiety is essential to deal with your maladaptive perfectionism – as we know perfectionists tend to be very stressed people!

Start to include practical stress reduction strategies into your daily routine.

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When you’re faced with problems and challenges – which you inevitably will be – you’ll be better equipped to cope and effectively ‘roll with the punches’ that life brings.

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Tip #5: Prioritize self-care

Make time for relaxation, hobbies, and activities that bring you joy and recharge your energy.

Engage in regular exercise, practice mindfulness or meditation, and maintain a balanced lifestyle.

Prioritize sleep, healthy eating, and regular breaks to avoid burnout and maintain overall well-being.

Tip #6: Seek support

Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or a therapist who can provide guidance and support.

Share your experiences and challenges with others who can offer empathy and understanding.

Seek professional help if maladaptive perfectionism is significantly impacting your daily life and well-being.

Tip #7: Practice self-reflection to build self-awareness

Engage in self-reflection to understand the underlying reasons for your perfectionistic tendencies.

Cultivate self-awareness and develop a compassionate understanding of yourself.

Recognize that your worth is not solely determined by your achievements and that you are valuable and deserving of love and acceptance just as you are.

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Tip #8: Challenge the fear of failure

Embrace the idea that failure is a natural part of life and an opportunity for growth.

View failures as learning experiences and stepping stones toward success.

Shift your perspective from fearing failure to embracing it as a necessary part of the journey toward achieving your goals.

Tip #9: Establish healthy boundaries

Learn to say no and set boundaries to protect your time, energy, and well-being.

Recognize that you cannot please everyone and be sure to prioritize your own needs and values.

Set realistic expectations for yourself and others and avoid taking on more than you can handle.

Tip #10: Celebrate progress and small victories

Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem.

Recognize the effort and dedication you put into your pursuits.

Practice gratitude for the journey and the lessons learned along the way.

By focusing on your progress and celebrating even the smallest victories, you can build motivation and confidence to continue moving forward.

Final Thoughts: Maladaptive Perfectionism

It’s been many years since I first realised I’m a perfectionist and I now know it’s entirely possible to harness the positive aspects of perfectionism while keeping the negative aspects in check.

And this is something I’ve seen time and again with my coaching clients too.

Maladaptive perfectionism can have a huge impact on your life, including your stress levels, mental health, relationships, and overall well-being.

So it’s essential to recognize its harmful effects and take proactive steps to overcome it.

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Now over to you. Leave a comment below and tell me the one tip you’re going to do first to keep your perfectionism in check.


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  1. Pippa

    I never thought about the impact of perfectionism on missed opportunities – it’s true fear often holds us back from trying new things. This post has given me a lot to think about and has inspired me to push past my perfectionistic tendencies. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Rosie

    I can totally relate to the self-oriented perfectionism. I always set such high standards for myself, and when I don’t meet them, I beat myself up about it. It’s a never-ending cycle of self-criticism 😕 I’m glad there are practical tips in this post on how to overcome it. Excited to give them a try!


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